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In this chapter, I’m going to leave out some obvious sex tourism countries and instead concentrate on a few business traveler destinations. A place like Thailand is a Mecca of sex activity but from what I hear, you shouldn’t need any help finding what you’re looking for there. So I’ll concentrate on some places where it’s a bit harder to find the fun providers. Hopefully this will help you in your quest for a little after work fun.

Singapore:

Singapore is one of those countries worth mentioning when it comes to finding hot women. Depending on where you’re last stopover is before Singapore, you should even be paying attention to the ladies on the airplane. Singapore apparently if pretty loose with their visas and you’ll find that the place is packed with hot young women from Thailand, the Philippines, Cambodia, China, etc. Therefore, if you’re coming from Hong Kong for example, there may be some working girls on your flight. Catch their eye and you might be able to arrange your date right there and then. Besides, the lighting on a plane or in an airport is pretty harsh. If she’s good looking, dressed down on an airplane, chances are she’ll be smoking hot dressed up and made up for an evening of drinking and dancing. Ok enough about airline romance…

The other thing to know about Singapore is that the people (read women) are aloof during the day. In other words, don’t be discouraged if you cannot make eye contact with any of the beautiful women walking down the streets during the day. Singapore is not a third world country and most of the women you see have jobs or they are well off and doing their shopping in Singapore’s ritzy designer shops. In other words, they are busy people and their time for fun is not during the daytime.

Street Action

At about dusk, if you’re walking around downtown, you will find that the atmosphere changes dramatically. Suddenly you’ve gone from “no one will look at me” to “be careful about making eye contact”. The streets have changed and the working girls are out. You will find it difficult but making eye contact, like you would in San Francisco (if you wanted a girl to know you were interested) can become an exercise in extracting yourself from an unintentional negotiation. I’ve never picked up a girl off the street in Singapore although I have had to extract myself from several conversations/negotiations.

Author’s Warning: Singapore is known for having many lady-boys. This is especially the case on the streets so unless you’re into that kind of thing, be careful. Also, don’t think you can automatically tell if a girl is (or was) actually a boy. Some are very beautiful and it takes a little closer examination to be sure. You’re best to avoid the street walkers in my humble opinion.

Hotel Bars

The real action in Singapore is in the hotel bars and karaoke bars. My first visit to Singapore was a pleasantly surprising one. I stayed in a very nice hotel in the middle of town (a top American chain hotel) and was stunned to find that the hotel bar was basically a brothel in the evening. My co-worker and I went downstairs to the bar (for a drink…really!) and were soon sitting with two very exotic, very sexy, ladies from Thailand. When I asked one of them, “What are you doing here?” she replied, “I think you know what I’m doing here.” Up until then, I thought I was doing really well with the ladies. Funny how the discussion of money changes that feeling huh? These girls usually travel groups and there’s usually one experienced girl that helps with language and negotiation stuff for the new and younger girls. In the case of my first evening in Singapore, I ended up with the newbie while my co-worker took the experienced girl up to his room. We both had great experiences and were out scouting for more experiences later that week. Of course, by the time I returned to Singapore, my hotel had cleaned up its act and the girls had moved on. If it’s a hotel bar you’re looking for, you’ll need to figure out which one is hot at the moment.

Hot to Spot a Lady-boy: If you want to avoid a “Crying Game” type scene in your hotel room, you should know how to spot a lady-boy. It’s sad but some of these lady-boys were marked for that existence at a very young age. That means that they may have had their penis removed and had hormone treatment since before puberty. Therefore, some are very hard to spot. My advice is if you suspect at all, just pass on that one and find another. There are many fish in the Singaporean sea my friend. The voice is one give away. If your girl has a froggy voice or seems to be putting on a falsetto, walk away. Hands are another sign. Petite Asian women do not have big masculine hands. Shake “her” hand and examine it. Does it look like Kina Kai’s or Jackie Chan’s? Don’t be fooled by lack of Adam’s apple or beautiful breasts. Surgery in Asia is very inexpensive by Western standards. Once again, you’re in a target rich environment…why settle? If you suspect a girl is actually a lady-boy, move on.

Orchard Towers

The place where you cannot go wrong in Singapore is the infamous Orchard Towers. Orchard Towers is well known so you shouldn’t have to know more than the name to get a cabbie to drop you there. In some business circles it’s known as “Four Floors of Whores”. It’s literally a four story building with (at any given time) between 6 and 12 bar/nightclubs. Apart from waitresses, just about every girl you see inside any of these bars is available for sex. Let me warn you now. It can be a bit high pressure and many of the girls would like nothing more than to entice you to a table so that they can stake claim to you for the night. My advice is to keep moving, keep eye contact to a minimum, and don’t get suckered into sitting down and buying a drink for someone until you’re ready. There’s no cover charge for men at these bars. The women pay for the privilege of being inside so feel free to stroll in, make a couple of loops, and stroll on to the next place depending on your time table. The girls will be flirty and sometimes outright aggressive with ass grabbing and through the pants penis rubbing pretty common. I have gone to Orchard Towers just to have the pleasure of a girl rubbing my dick through my pants…without the intention of taking anyone home. I have also gone with the intention of taking someone home and not being able to choose from the packs of beautiful girls. I call that sensory overload and it’s only happened to me once. I thought my brain would explode! Avoid the places that require you sit at a table because it’ll be like a cattle call until you pick one, two or three women to sit with you. Then you’re stuck buying overpriced drinks for the ladies. The bars change constantly so it’s not worth mentioning any by name but it’s easy to hop from one to the next until you find your perfect woman to take home for a hour or an evening.

Speaking of perfect women… You will find some of the most gorgeous women on Earth at Orchard Towers. Don’t get me wrong, there are some real dogs here too but the classic Asian beauties are easy to pick out of the crowd. A word of advice: If you find a girl that takes your breath away, go for her right away. Even if it means leaving your current table mate to talk to the gorgeous one, do it. I have twice missed out on incredible beauties; once because it was so early in my quest and once because I was seated with a girl I didn’t want to offend. The real beautiful ones will also be noticed by other men and most will not return later. Some men have enough money to keep these beauties for the night. Speaking of money, the price can vary in Singapore but when I was last there it was about $100 USD for a couple hours of massage and sex. Try to talk them into 100 Sing Dollars. Prices may have changed since but with the right woman, it’s well worth the money.

Author’s Experience: One of the greatest experiences I’ve had in Singapore was with a beautiful Chinese girl. She was tall and slender with perfect breasts. She was dressed in a white sequined gown as if she had been to a formal ball at the ambassador’s home. When she removed that gown, she exposed her milky white skin and pale pink nipples. She gave me a nice light touch massage and when I rolled over she engulfed my penis with her full red lips. Her expert oral skills left me breathless as she slowly brought me to climax. I warned her that I was coming but she made no motion to take me out of her mouth. I came hard and long and she teased every bit out of me with her mouth and tongue working expertly. After, she left me in her mouth for a long, long time…teasing me so that my member would continue to spasm every once in awhile. I realized after about five minutes of this, that she had swallowed it all down as if this was the nectar she had been craving. I could have fallen in love with her right then and there and I wish that I had asked her to stay the night. Instead, I placed her in a cab and sent her on her way that night. Perhaps my all time favorite?

For more advice on Singapore, I recommend you visit www.worksexguide.com and www.sammyboytimes.com There is a lot of legal brothel activity in and about Geylang which I have never visited during the evening. Like I mentioned previously, there are also plenty of opportunities in bars, restaurants, and karaoke places. The karaoke places are pretty expensive as you’re going to pay for a room and the girls and the booze. If you’re with a big group, or even better on the company dime, this might be a good way to go. For the most part, the karaoke girls are available for dating. They may have some strict house rules so you may have to wait until the next day/night or until they are off work that night. Hope you’re recovered from your jet lag!

5 tips for successful Singapore mongering:

1) Scout out the Orchard Towers near the Orchard Hotel and down the street from the Thai Embassy.

2) When in the Towers, avoid overt eye contact until you are ready to pounce. Shop around for what you like and don’t’ be afraid to bar hop a bit. Remember that the girls won’t bar hop because they’ve paid a cover and are usually limited to one haunt per night.

3) Do some research ahead of time and check out what people are saying about Geylang area and other places on www.worldsexguide.com and www.sammyboytimes.com

4) Be polite and try to make friends with your hotel doormen. They usually turn a blind eye to your “dating” but can cause a problem…especially if you’ve been a arrogant ass throughout your stay.

5) Even though it’s a pain, walk your “date” down to the lobby and get her a cab. Don’t rely on the doormen to be nice to her without you there.

Bonus Materials

Author Posting from The World Sex Guide:

Great Freebie in Singapore

Thought I’d tell you about a great freebie I got in Singapore. The Orchard Towers is a great place to go and take it easy. I spent some time in Romeo Club but it’s pretty high pressure with a lot of lady boys. There was a little hottie there I would have taken home but she was gone when I returned. Her name was Beyonce. I also spent some time in another bar with two ladies that really wanted me to take them home. Good price and all but they were older and although I’m sure I would have been pleased, I passed.

By the way, if you spend any time around these girls they will be rubbing you through your pants and letting you rub them pretty much anywhere. So it’s never a dull time.

I went to another bar and hit on one of the beautiful Indian girls there. I don’t mean a working girl but this girl worked for the bar. I think she liked me because when she offered to bring me a girl, I just kept telling her I liked her. Sure she pried a few drinks out of me but at the end of her shift, she walked me to my hotel and fucked my brains out. She stayed the night and it was good.

I have to say, this NEVER happens to me so I was quite thrilled. I will find her next time I’m in town. Sorry to be vague about her but I don’t want you better looking guys jumping my gal ;-) when I’m gone.

Moral is: A little flattery will get you everywhere. Just remember, if you tell her you like her best, prove it by not molesting other chicks while she’s not looking. I talked to other girls which got her hackles up just enough but I did not grope. Great time was had by all!

by Rob Franks
http://www.findsexanywhere.blogspot.com
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I sit and wonder a lot about life and love. Recently I find myself asking (due to the forever ongoing sex saga in my life) whether it is possible to love someone deeply yet not be attracted to them physically?

While I am told by my significant other that this is not the case. That he does find me attractive I have to wonder if this is true. Another possibility for the problem. If this is the case how do I find out? How come for the first time in 4 years I am tending to disbelieve him?

I hit an all new low today and something I’m not proud of. I opened his laptop and snooped today. For the first time ever I’m checking up on him. Why for an answer I guess. I guess what I don’t understand is if everything he is telling me is the truth then why isn’t he just going for it and seeing if something happens. You see when I talk to him I get a feeling that there’s something he’s holding back. What I have no clue. Do I have any proof to have these feelings no. He has never lied to me before (well that I have found him out on). God all I keep thinking is if I am starting to snoop then maybe it is the beginning of the end?

Ok so they turned up in a brown paper envelope with the word “toy” written on it. Waiting as long as I have I ripped open the envelope and was amazed at how big they were! I thought quietly to myself, maybe there was a size guide on the page I didn’t see and they just sent me XL. Went to Wild Secrets website and nope, this is the one and only size! I put them on the shelf and every time I walked past them thought “surely not, no way are they going to fit!” I was sure the only way they would was if I was really turned on so, with the help of my partner, I tried them.

For such big balls they did fit! For the next few hours I walked around with the Duo Balls in. Every movement I made the inner balls moved and I felt the sensation. I was very aware that every time they moved I would tense my vaginal muscles…giving me an intense pleasurable feeling.

I will say here I kept asking my partner if he could hear the noise when the balls moved as I was a little paranoid considering the noise they made out of the packet. He said he couldn’t. Once I was convinced I started to become more comfortable with them and really started to enjoy the feeling of the balls moving around inside me. I was certainly getting very turned on!

These balls will not only give you thrills as you wear them but will also strengthen your vaginal muscles which will enable you to have bigger and better orgasms. I do like this product. I enjoy the feeling of being turned on and so I can’t wait to go out to dinner on the weekend and try them out in public!

Sex Toy Review by: Nikki
Country: New Plymouth, NZ
My Profile: KiwiPulse

Joy and I went to see Jack Hanson perform at the Magic Castle in Hollywood, California one night in 2001. Something exciting happened on this night, and it was not a planned act of stage illusion.

The Magic Castle is a Victorian mansion and private club that houses the Academy of Magical Arts, where top notch stage magicians and illusionists perform. The mansion has three stories and a basement, with almost every inch of it is either decorated with memorabilia, or rigged to amuse and amaze club members and their guests. There are portrait paintings with eyes that follow you, a telephone booth where a skeleton appears in the glass, a table where your drinks revolve, and a piano played by a fake ghost named Irma.
The point about the Magic Castle is, the place is geared toward creating illusion, which is why I was so surprised by what happened to me after dinner.
Joy, Jack and I had dinner at the Magic Castle before Jack’s show. Jack had arranged for us to get VIP seating, which meant we needed to be in front of the Parlor stage door at a certain time. Since it was a good idea to use the restroom facilities beforehand, we timed ourselves with that in mind. Jack had already left to prepare for his show, when Joy and I left the dining room. The ladies restroom was at the bottom of the staircase on the same floor as the Parlor. Joy and I entered the small ladies room, which was only big enough for two stalls and two side-by-side sinks. There was no room for furniture, and only one narrow door in and out. The walls and stalls were covered with a collage of old time magazine ads. When we entered the ladies room and saw that both stalls were empty, we went in each to her own. Joy left first and said she would be right outside. I replied that I was right behind her. I heard Joy leave.
Moments after Joy left, I exited the stall and made a left turn for the sink to wash my hands. That’s when I nearly collided with a beautiful woman. I hadn’t heard her enter. She smiled, said hello and I realized at once that I was standing in a Magic Castle ladies room smiling at Sharon Stone. Really. The Sharon Stone."I love your dress,” she said. All I can remember stammering was, “Thank you.”
I opened the ladies room door to leave. Joy quickly approached me, pulled me over by the photograph of Houdini on the wall, and said with some excitement “Did you see who that was? Your favorite actress in the entire world!”
I smiled and said, “I sure did. If I wasn’t a woman…” I let it hang in midair as we both laughed at the irony of the situation. I have loved Sharon Stone for decades and when I finally get to meet her, I am also a woman. What a life!

Post by: Kathryn Cleve
Country: United States
My Blog: Longing to be a Woman

I feel particularly miserable and detached tonight, more so than most nights. I have questions that when I search for answers I’m either searching in the wrong place or asking the wrong person.
Things of late haven’t been that great and me being a Scorpio this tends to shut me up for some time not wanting to allow anyone in or let anyone see that I might not be possibly dealing with things all that well. Need for secrecy can be isolating. The need to share can be agonizing. The internal struggle of both is frustrating.
The need for understanding eludes me and not getting my own way frustrates me. I won’t say I have always gotten my own way but it would be bloody close. If I didn’t get what I wanted the first time I would try different ways till I had what I wanted and then got bored. The Scorpio motto might be “What is hidden is more interesting than what is obvious.” In this situation I’m not getting what I want and I’m not getting any understanding as to why it is so hard.
I have been with my older man for 4 years now. In all ways our relationship is perfect except for this one problem! I read somewhere that even if the rest of the relationship is perfect and there is one problem that can’t be solved or you feel isn’t being resolved it will consume the rest of the relationship. I have never heard a truer word spoken.
Scorpios again are very passionate people and most people that have had relationships with scorpions know their sex life is very intense and very active. This is very true of most relationships I have had and I have enjoyed my sex life and all the things I have experienced to date. However I have hit a brick wall. I am experiencing just sex once every 4 months (if I’m lucky). Has the relationship always been like this? Yes it has. Has it always been a problem? Yes it has. Why is it a problem? Because I want way more. Why am I not getting way more? I don’t know. He doesn’t know. We don’t know. The more we talk about it the further away we feel from each other. The longer it keeps happening the worse I feel about myself and the situation. Why am I blogging something so personal? Because here I am nobody you know. Here you are nobody I know. It doesn’t make it any easier to share but the need to share is strong and being the person I am I have to have everyone around me believe I am in control and this perfect outward life I have is real or the basis of it is.
My self confidence is through the floor. I can’t remember the last time I felt sexy. It is pilling into other areas of my life and I am slowly but surely beginning to resent my partner for the lack of interest in sex. All the obvious questions have been asked. No attraction, Angry with me, to stressed etc etc. All to No of course not. Hence the need for some understanding. Something to hold on to. All the normal reactions to this have been played out. Him being defensive, me blaming myself, me still blaming myself, him wanting to ignore the issue, me wanting to talk about the issue. All is done and dusted and no change. No understanding. Nothing to hang on to.
I have never been an unfaithful person. But the idea has struck a cord or two in the last few months when it has all become a bit too much. Why am I still here? In my understanding and capacity to love I love him. I don’t want to leave I have invested a lot in this and so has he. How do I deal with this? Again I have no understanding therefore I have no answers. How do I go on? Until it is no longer bearable and something finally cracks. What will that be? Who knows? What was the point to this? Again who knows I just needed to blurt it out.

Sitting at airport waiting for the plane that has my man on to arrive even on a Wednesday the Airport is busy with a whole different range of people with different lifestyles.

I find my mind wondering to blackspots reply to my men and money post about the personal price being to high for him and wondering whether it is the same for most?

There’s a lady sitting in front of me with what I would assume is her son since he called her mum. She’s crying they just called his plane she’s hugs him tells him to be safe and he looks down at her, smiles and says he’ll be home soon and promises to stay safe. He’s on his way to army training she tells me as she apologizes for the scene.

She waits for him to board the plane then silent her tears fall and when he’s boarded she turns to me again and says I begged him not to enlist with the way the worlds going he’s bound to have to go to war one day.

She says goodbye to me and I sit silently thanking god I don’t have to deal with that. The plane leaves and I find myself praying to god knows who that he will be able to carry out his promise and come home safe!

Really puts my shit into prospective that’s for sure. How dare I be unhappy about my life at any point I do have it very easy. I look up and see my man walking through the doors and think thank god I only have this to deal with!

What is it with men and money? I know you have to have money in order to live I get that, but why is it so important to have more than you need? I may be generalizing here a little bit and to tell you the truth I wonder if it is just the older male that has this problem. My man is 53 yrs old and obsessed with money and making our lives so we need and want for nothing. This is great im not saying it isn’t and his work ethic is next to none I have known. But for me other things come before money. Family is one and being together is another. I think I have the old idea of relationships where at the end of the day you come home and be together. Eating dinner at the table and everyone talking about their day is important to me. It allows me to know what everyone’s been up to and where their heads are at and gives everyone a chance to know that what they are going through can be shared and halved just by voicing it. It instils in the children that communication is important. That after the kids are in beds its turn off the TV and spend time together just the two of you. I think that today’s world is just so fast paced that if you don’t get this time you could easily lose yourself and your relationship in the daily grind. So what does that have to do with men and money it’s coming…

The man in my life is a Fitter/Welder and he works all over the world. Although he is employed out of a workshop in New Plymouth. He has the choice to work in the workshop and make as much as we need to live on a week and come home at the end of the day and be with his family. Or he can work anywhere in the world and be gone from anything up to 5 weeks and be home for 2 and earn 4 times what we need to live on a week and not get taxed NZ taxes on it. His choice is to work overseas and earn way more than we need. It means he’s more often than not, not here on important days such as birthdays sometimes he is not here for Christmas and he hasn’t been here ever on my birthday in the whole time we have been together. I will admit I didn’t sign on for this when we got together and didn’t even know he could do this sort of thing till about 6 months into our relationship when the chance to go and work in Lahir came up and he really wanted to go. He did say he wouldn’t go but who am I to stop him going and then live with the chance he would blame me later. It’s good money I could make in 5 weeks what I would make in 12 months here. It’s a great once in a lifetime opportunity. It won’t even last a year and imagine what we could do with that money buy a house and some new furniture blah blah.

Needless to say it has been Lahir, South Africa, Aussie, at the moment it’s England with 4 weeks there and 2 home. It’s always a case of the money and how great it will be and we will not want for anything. Apart from being together and sharing our day-to-day life! Why is it that money is much more important to men than women? Or maybe the question really is not so generalized and is why does money mean more to him than me?

I was asked yesterday by a friend wether I was satisfied with my life. This friend makes me think! Not about world issues or where I stand on topics etc but about my life what direction it is taking and wether im just settling as is easier to do than being true to myself! Sometimes I love this friend other times I just wish the friendship wasn’t so deep for lack of a better term.

Im the first to admit I don’t have all the answers to my life or to others lives but I try to be true to myself and the people around me. However yesterdays question throw me a little and my answer was no one is truly satisfied with his or her life and hoped I would get off lightly and the conversation would end there. I did and the conversation stopped there, only because she knew the conversation would haunt me and I would still be thinking about it long after she left!

On the surface I can quite honestly say I am satisfied with my life. Digging a little deeper however the answer would change. I don’t think that anyone is truly happy with all aspects of their life and I don’t think that would change no matter how much time you devoted to this subject. As humans change and adapt to their life at that time and that means that you will always find things you wish you could change. Ok here I am trying to justify to myself that I need not to look and change things I am unhappy with. I guess that this is a personal quest I have going on that has lasted as long as I can remember!

Sometimes I sit and think that im being rather selfish mainly because we have a good life and need or want for nothing! I don’t know of a lot of people who have the luxury of being able to stay home with the kids and still have a good lifestyle. Who have a partner that treats them with respect and loving most of the time. Who’s kids while they have their problems are close their parents. And on the outside looking in we are a “typically sane” family who have direction and financial stability to make things we want happen. And so many of my friends think me lucky. As do I. I certainly don’t take these things for granted and thank whatever “higher being” is out there for what we have.

But having money and the ability to make things happen for the better doesn’t necessarily make for a happy person unless of course you measure yourself on these things, which I do not (not saying that it is wrong to do so). Certainly I am not one to judge another human being.

I am what I consider a normal human being and want for the same things that others want and most of the time the need for intimacy eludes me. I’m not saying just sex here or though I think a much deeper sex life helps. I am more meaning the feelings of closeness, safety, trust and transparency. For intimacy to be sustainable and nourishing it also requires trust, transparency and rituals of connection. You have to know yourself and your inner self in order to share your self with another. Knowing yourself makes it possible to stand for yourself in an intimate relationship without taking over or losing yourself to the other. I think this is the journey I have to undertake in order to be satisified with my life at this present moment. Ah whatever interesting times!

Post by: Nikki
Country: New Plymouth, NZ
My Profile: KiwiPulse