Weekend Kindness

Part of the problem today with marriage is that it is being devalued by a umber of things, not the least of which is the idea that a couple can get together without being married and have all the “benefits” of marriage.

While purity is something that should be pursued by both people in a relationship, traditionally the woman has held control over a relationship, insisting on a commitment before providing the companionship.

Children

Let’s face it, women have children, and the best environment for children is with a committed father and mother in the family.  Biology states that women have children, and when you’re in a non-committed relationship, you’re possibly denying your child their father.

Hard to Get

That is why it’s not just a tactic, it’s important for women to play hard to get.  A guy shouldn’t get your emotional or physical love until he’s given you a commitment:

As single women, we need to stop treating men as if they are our husbands.  We are created with a nature that longs to serve and please a man, but when we do this, we take away his desire for a wife.  … [I]f women are giving men companionship outside of marriage, he will never hunger for female companionship inside of marriage.  Women have the ability to create a void in a man’s life so he will become self-motivated to fill it with the presence of a wife.

– Emotional Purity: An Affair of the Heart

Too often I’ve seen women who long for marriage give companionship—kindness—to a man who they hope will propose only to realize that they are doing effect exactly the opposite.  They are taking away his incentive to commit.

Saving For Tomorrow

It’s hard to wait—we’re programmed and told over and over that we can have what we want when we want it.  The problem is that, whether it’s a car or a husband/wife, seldom is the thing that is right in front of you he best that you can do.  When it comes to debt, yes you can “have it now”, but you’ll pay double.  Same goes for a marriage or relationship—sure you can have a companion right now, but you may pay much more emotionally and physically if the relationship dissolves because you took Mr. Right Now over Mr. Right.