Weekend Kindness

No phrase in the English language is stronger or bonds two people together more strongly than the words “I Love You”.  The phrase passed on from generation, always with the same meaning, always let you know exactly how the other person feels.

But you can show that you love someone without saying it, and sometimes that vivid illustration can say what words cannot.

1. Submitting to the Other

One of the things that will show your love like nothing else is by putting aside your desires for theirs.  I’m not saying that you need to be a slave to someone, but when you’re in love and showing it, you will naturally find that you’re willing to do whatever the other person wants to do—you just want to be with them no matter what.

What comes so easy when you’re dating or courting should also be something that you work on and practice in marriage, so that your let the person that you love know that being with them is more important than getting your own way.

2. Thinking of Them

When you were dating, or if you’re still dating, your lover is always on your mind.  You’re thinking about the next time you’ll be together.  You’re pondering what they’re doing or wearing.  You’re hoping that they’ll call.

This is when you should write down something to show them later, or you should give them a call, drop them an e-mail or send a text.  You’re thinking about them, and I’m sure they’ll be happy to know it.

3. Be There in the Tough Times

It’s easy to be around when things are going well.  It’s hard to be with people when they’re making you mad or they are going through difficult times.  It is in these tough times that you can show your love more powerfully than at any other time in your relationship.  It is during these difficult times that you show them that they are more than the happiness that they bring you—they are someone that you truly love.

4. Share Your True Self

Many of us are adept at playing the hypocrite.  No, I’m not calling everyone a liar, but what I am saying is that we all wear masks—the thickest we wear is the one that many of us wear to church.

The longer that you’ve been in a relationship with someone, the thinner the mask is between you and them—because they see you even when you’re tired out.  However, even in this case, it’s rare that someone shows who they truly are, and what they truly struggle with.

If you’re able to share with your lover who you truly are, and they know what you’re doing, they will know that you truly love and trust them.

5. Sacrifice

This kinda goes along with #1, but is slightly different.  Whereas submission chooses to do something that someone else wants, sacrifice takes something that you want and, knowing that you both can’t have it, gives it up for the good of the other person.

If you can do this without calling attention to the fact that you’re doing it, then you’ve truly shown love indeed—for true love doesn’t call attention to oneself, but seeks the best for someone else.

Part 2 tomorrow…